Is my partner cheating on me?

Wanting to check your partner, says something about you. That you are not sure that you can trust him. At least, that’s what we think about it ourselves. But in fact you have difficulty trusting yourself with the other person and for that reason you are constantly checking him.

We do this because we are afraid of losing the other. We want to know what he does, where he is, who he is in contact with. Some follow the other through their telephone. Look at who he is in contact with. This of course doesn’t benefit the relationship.

With your own behavior you encourage fraud. Of course, that doesn’t always have to be the case, the other person will also give you a reason not to trust him in everything. And then, you see, you can’t trust him.

Finding out that your partner, with whom you are so incredibly good and who has been sharing joys and sorrows for years, rejects you, seeks salvation elsewhere, is a stab in your heart. You did not see it coming at all, you have no idea why this happened to you and he, you can hurt him, you turn him to hell. How dare you let me fall like that?

Yes, it happens, and more often than you think, that your partner, whom you love, drops you because the grass is greener elsewhere. You are blocked, your head prevails, you are in a survival city, you live on adrenaline, an occasional sandwich and lots of coffee. The phone rings, days with friends, and he, he still comes in cheerfully.

He takes a shower as if nothing is wrong, is still next to you in bed, because there is no other possibility. And you, you do on autopilot what you have to do, totally stunned and collapsing an abyss. You need phone calls with girlfriends, you have to tell your story, share your emotions, but you won’t get much further. The one says this, the other says that, and despite all the sweet well-intentioned advice, you get more and more entangled and you never want to see him again, but only the thought of that, gives you fear, so much fear that that is not whatever you want. Then what? And how.

And you can certainly use help if you find out that your partner, who you trusted to the bid, is cheating on you. Within 10 seconds, your life will be completely turned upside down, you will lose faith in him, humanity and in yourself.

Thankfully you can call, or chat with a medium, coach, counselor. They will help you through this difficult period and even if you only want to hear that everything will come back and that your only questions are, you also hear the medium of your choice say something to you in the background, which you actually don’t want to hear, but the realization trickles in very slowly.

You have also had a share in it, where the two of you are now. But don’t blame yourself, you hear the medium say, don’t feel guilty, because cheating, is not what you have done, but the other.

But if you are very honest with yourself now, you will see that things have been changing in your relationship lately. You were tired, you had to do a lot, the pressure was high and after work, you preferred to sit on the couch in a jogging suit. Yes, that’s right, you agree timidly and softly against the medium. The medium helps you, without you noticing, through these dark days and it does you good.